A greater wrongness, at least from my perspective, is performing the unique ministry of a eulogy writer and then not getting paid for one's work. A eulogy is so personal and so intimate that writing a fitting eulogy may be the hardest kind of writing. It is emotional, it is creative, it is time sensitive, it pretty much has to be done right the first time.
Nevertheless, some who have contracted us to write eulogies seem to dissapear as soon as they receive the eulogy and never respond to requests for payment. I have no doubt that they have used the eulogy, either as is or slightly altered and somehow manage to rationalize that that is OK.
But it's not. Using another's work without paying the agreed upon fee is disrespectful of the person the eulogy is about. But that doesn't seem to bother them too much.
But it happens so often that I've now, regretfully, had to change a long standing policy of not requesting ANY money until the first draft (95% of the finished product) is delivered. It's a shame. I've always trusted people. Now (and I hate this) they have to trust me in advance.
But what are we to do?