1. Keep it brief. Typically from seven to ten minutes in length (that should come to around a thousand words).
2. Keep it Personal. Focus on the specific qualities of your loved one - share a story or two - humor is good.
3. Keep it positive. Don't dwell on his or her negative attributes.
4. Write it out. Public speaking from memory is often a formula for disaster or embarassment.
5. Keep it in a conversational tone. Don't try to make it a formal "speech."
Good advice. The rub comes with two issues. Most of us are just not good writers. We can talk in conversation, but even the thought of writing something out is terrifying. We take out a pad of paper and a pen and suddenly we don't even know where to start. We've seen others do it so we know it can be done, but...
The second issue is time. From the time someone dies to the day of the funeral or memorial service the eulogy writer has about 72 hours. That seems like a long time unless there are other things that need to be done - and at times of crisis there always are.
It is probably terribly self serving, but I've got to say, the services of a professional eulogy writer can really save the day. We can collect information about your loved one from a form we supply and you email to us called Collecting Memories and have a wonderful eulogy back in your hands within twenty four hours. You look it over, make some changes yourself or give us a call and we will and, well within your time frame, you have something great to present.
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