10 Best Eulogy Writers Online (Not rated and ranked - Compared). Finding the Best Eulogy Writing Service for You
There are 10 Eulogy Writing Services currently available online. Which is the BEST eulogy writing service? That's a purely subjective judgement. It depends on who you are and what kind of eulogy you want written.
This article isn’t so much a eulogy writers review, in the ‘rating’ sense, as it is a eulogy writers comparison in reality – in chart form. Below you’ll find a chart that attempts to compare eulogy writers ‘apples to apples.’ I make no attempt to rate eulogy writers. I am fairly confident that each and every one of them are excellent writers, each with his or her own style and ‘voice.’ Full transparency: I am a eulogy writer myself (TheEulogyWriters.com). Therefore trying to rate eulogy writers and name one better than the others would be foolish. My judgement would be too suspect, as well it should be.
So – no eulogy writers review today – only a professional eulogy writers comparison. And even that will be limited only to American eulogy writers. There are several others scattered throughout the world, but I have not researched them so will make no comment as to their work.
My assumption is that, if you have done a search for “review eulogy writers” or “compare eulogy writers,” or “rate eulogy writers,” or even just “professional eulogy writers,” you are in need of one. I am so sorry for your loss or impending loss. I’m hoping that my chart and summaries of each of the contents on professional eulogy writer’s services will save you time and effort and, in the process, relieve a bit of the stress you are experiencing right now
Why Hire a Professional Eulogy Writer
How To Choose a Eulogy Writer
Because having a eulogy written is expensive, you may want to consider using a template. A template is a generic eulogy where you fill in some blanks and insert a few stories and end up with an acceptable eulogy for your loved one. If you are a good writer to begin with, a template isn’t a bad choice. You can find a number of templates by typing in “Eulogy Template” in any search engine. You’ll have many to choose from. A template requires a bit of work but may be worth it if you can’t afford a professional eulogy writer. If grief causes writer’s block (as is often the case), a template won’t work for you. Don’t decide that is the case too late to hire a eulogy writer.
Eulogy Writer Comparison Chart
Below is a written description of America’s ten online eulogy writing services.
The first four have a more visible online presence than the final six, therefore these undoubtedly have a larger number of clients.
Eulogy.com was one of the first eulogy writing services online. They “provide primarily two services: custom eulogy ghost writing services and intensive review/revision" of the eulogy you have written. The site lists numerous helpful articles for those who have lost a loved one. Their procedure is to conduct a 20 minute initial interview and then match the client to a writer. That writer will conduct a second interview to find out information about your loved one, lasting from 30 – 60 minutes. The eulogy will be written within 24 and 48 hours. Their pricing structure begins with editing what you’ve already written, costing $360. A eulogy from scratch will cost $515. An option with up to 4 revisions costs $772. Eulogy.com is headquartered in Austin, Texas.
TheEulogyWriters.com has never had a dissatisfied client after having written eulogies for over thirty years (they have had an online presence since 2011). Both key writers have worked as clergy persons for over three decades so have a vast experience to call upon – having literally written over a thousand eulogies. There are a total of four authors on staff, allowing turn-around time to be the shortest of any online service – fewer than 24 hours, guaranteed. They work from a questionnaire with follow-up phone conversations as needed. They have only one fee - $278, which includes unlimited revisions. Chief writer, Steve Schafer posts his personal cell phone number on the site. TheEulogyWriters are located in West Bloomfield, Michigan, Oshkosh, Wisconsin, Covington, Kentucky, and Austin, Texas.
EulogiesByAubrey.com is the newest eulogy writer on the scene (among the top four) and somehow managed to get listed on the first page of search engines within her first year. Aubrey has an extensive blog in which the visitor can get to know her better than any other eulogy writer. She also has a unique offering – pet portraits. Aubrey is trained in mortuary science with an emphasis in funeral directing and grief psychology. Aubrey has no formal writing education but has published numerous articles at urnsonline.com. Aubrey readily acknowledges that she is a person of faith. Aubrey completes eulogies within 48 hours and charges $225. She works from a questionnaire. Aubrey works from her home in Waxahachie, Texas.
GiveTheEulogy.com is the site of Den Pope. Den has a Masters degree in Journalism and has written speeches for clients in a wide variety of impressive places. He says, “The best eulogy is grounded in the fact that humans have been hard-wired for story since the Stone Age. So like a movie, your eulogy must grab, engage and even surprise the audience in a simple narrative structure that is more showing than telling.” There are three ‘packages’ available. One is for the writing of a eulogy for $449; one for writing and presentation coaching for $489; a third includes writing, coaching and a unique 7”x 7” four-color, hardcover memory book with the full text of your eulogy included. Den works from information gathered through phone conversations. Den is headquartered in Chicago, Illinois.
DWReulogywriting.com is headed by David Roberts. David is a freelance writer and editor who ‘discovered’ eulogy writing when a friend asked him to write one. He says, “I was so touched by my client’s appreciation and sense of relief that I immediately recognized a need and began offering eulogy writing as an advertised service." In addition to writing eulogies, David writes obituaries and does copy editing and technical writing for businesses. David works from a questionnaire with follow up phone conversations as needed. David lives in San Antonio, Texas.
ProfessionalEulogyWriter.com Sarita is a published author with a master’s degree in creative nonfiction writing. She says that, “for me, writing is an act of love.” Sarita’s aunt died during the pandemic and she helped her cousins craft a eulogy for their mother. She found this extremely satisfying and wanted to offer her services to others. She does an initial phone conversation to see if she will be a ‘good fit.’ Sarita offers three services. One is the editing of something you’ve already written. She charges $75 for this. Writing the eulogy from scratch will cost $351. She will create a custom quote if you have out-of-the-ordinary requirements. Sarita resides in Southern California.
TheGiftOfEulogy.com Dr. Janette is a licensed clinical psychologist. She specializes in eulogies for military families and unexpected deaths or complex circumstances, such as for suicide, accidents, medical events, hate crimes, COVID-19 deaths, etc. Janette says her service is “sensitive to and fully embraces intersectionality and diversity.” ‘Jae’ has three offerings: “You Write – We Edit” ($249); “We Interview – We Write;” ($499); and “Eulogy Presentation Coaching” ($179). Information is gathered through a questionnaire with follow up phone calls or emails. Dr. Janette lives in Davie, Florida.
InTributeEulogyServices.com As an English and writing teacher, Margaret O’Donnell wrote her first eulogy over twenty five years ago for her father. She says that, when she writes eulogies, she “reflects on a person’s life that may have once been ordinary and raise it to a level above.” Margaret says that, even in teaching, her passion lies in story telling, so that telling the life story of a loved one is a great honor. She gathers information using a questionnaire or, if the client prefers, over the phone. Her fee is $350. Margaret lives in Brea, California.
AnythingWithWords.com Molly-Ann Leikin is not just a eulogy writer. She has an entire repertoire of writing skills. She literally does ‘Anything With Words.” She writes wedding vows and speeches, Bar and Bat Mitzvoth speeches, anniversary and birthday speeches… and editing and proofreading. Molly-Ann’s fee is dependent on the project. She’ll give a quote upon request. She gathers information through phone conversations. Molly-Ann works out of Santa Barbara, California.
EulogyWriter.Wordpress.com Brian Dodd is a professional writer. His eulogy writing motto is “To honor, remember, and celebrate.” To reach more people, Brian is willing to work via email or phone but his strong preference is personal visits whenever such is feasible. Brian will cater to the client’s desires for a humorous, serious, inspirational, or ‘story line’ eulogy. He doesn’t specify how long his completion time frame is but indicates it is “quick, as we’ll be on a tight deadline.” Brian’s fee is $200 for the eulogy writing plus $50 per hour for rewrites. Brian is based in Atlanta, Georgia
From time to time every eulogy writer gets a request for a ‘humorous’ eulogy for a loved one. My typical (and totally honest) response is, “Eulogy writers are not, by nature, humorous people - that's just the nature of what we do. But if you’ll provide several humorous stories and promise to give the eulogy in a humorous way, we’ll do our best.”
Most professional eulogists want to tell the story of a person’s life in the best possible way. SOMETIMES that may be with humor. Comedian Beth Sherman says she has written over a hundred humorous eulogies over the years but isn’t doing eulogies currently. She does, however, offer a template for putting together a humorous eulogy, which I’ve printed below. As you read it over, you’ll see that YOU will have do be the funny person as you write and think in humorous terms. Beth doesn’t tell you how to be humorous…
BASIC TEMPLATE FOR A FUNNY EULOGY
By Beth Sherman
TIP - Did they have a sense of humor? Would they have asked, “Why is everyone crying?” Or told you to speed it up so they could get to the bar for the wake? Or checked with Aunt Joan to make sure she got the deli tray “from the good deli, not the other one.” Channel their voice and their sense of humor.
3. What kind of person was the person you’re honoring? What was their profession? Background? Personality? Life of the party? Quiet but with a wicked sense of humor? What were they passionate about?
4. Share some favorite stories and memories that get to the core of who the person was and illustrate what you’ve told us about them in step 3. Be specific! If you loved going out to lunch with your grandmother, where did you go? What did you order? What did she order? Did you go to movies together? What kind of movies did she like?
TIP - Especially if a few people will be speaking, try to be mindful of what other stories might be told. You don’t want to be the fifth person in a row to tell the story of how Grandpa crashed his boat into the dock while he was lecturing Grandma about safety.
If you’re worried you might repeat a story someone else is planning on telling, ask around in advance and adjust accordingly.
Trust me on this. In the chaos of planning my mother’s funeral while caring for my 94 year-old dad, I forgot to check in with him about the content of his speech.
I spoke first, and amid lots of other content, I briefly mentioned how my mother first met my dad. (A legendary family story.) Later on, my dad briefly refused to come up and speak because “I’d already told his story.”
He was half-kidding (which gives you insight into my family,) and ultimately went up and made a beautiful speech, but for a few minutes, I felt like a monster.
5. Tell us how the loss of this person will touch your everyday life. Again, be specific! Tell us the big and the small stuff.
6. Finally, thank the person you’re honoring for what they’ve taught you, tell them what you’ll do to honor their legacy and if you want, say a literal goodbye.
The Perfect Eulogy
I can’t rate eulogy writers but I CAN rate eulogies.
A few months ago I received a call from a woman who wanted me to edit and improve a eulogy she had written for her husband. I told her I’d be happy to do so. She sent it and it was already one of the best eulogies I’ve ever read. I told her I couldn’t possibly do better than she had already done and to not change a word of it. I sent it to all of our writers and told them that THIS is a eulogy that sets the bar. It is the ‘Gold Standard,’ it is the eulogy we should always strive for.
Here it is – the best eulogy I’ve ever read (that we didn’t write)…
"Is it okay to hold your hand?"
Such a simple question, but it did for me what no great declaration of love could do. It told me that this man saw me, I mattered, and he would never do anything to harm me. There was a serenity and calm about him that I instinctively trusted. That calm and patient spirit spoke to me and immediately provided this young, female immigrant, vulnerable and alone in this country, a sense of assurance and respect that he would share with me from then on.
Forty-three years later, August 16th, it was me holding his hand, willing him to keep holding on to mine. After he said goodbye to his baby girl, our son, and his mother, he turned to me and said in a soft whisper, "Honey, I have to leave you too."
In the end, because he was so tired, because he could feel his body breaking down, his mind getting confused, and his vision blurring, I had to let him go, assuring him against my will that we would be okay.
In writing this tribute, I so very much want to capture for you the essence of this man who has been the 'wind beneath my wings' for so long. But I find my words cannot do justice to all that Algie was. So I speak, using imperfect words and shadowy picture paintings and hope it conveys the fundamental truth that those of us who were lucky enough to know him, walked away being better off for having known him.
He was my rock. I remember trying to apologize because we agreed when we joined our lives that we would be there to help each other achieve our career goals, yet it was only I who got to do so. In that hospital bed, he took my hands and said, "honey, you need to understand. That was my role, that was the role I chose, and I love it! I have no regrets."
When the snow days came, I would walk out to my car only to find that he woke up ahead of me, shoveled the drive, chipped the ice off my car, and left it warming for me. He chose to work twelve-hour days, three days per week, so he could be there for our children as much as possible. He passed up many lucrative promotions, always counting the cost and the impact on our children.
Reliable, supportive, predictable. His word was his bond.
My Albert had a heart of compassion. He would see beyond the things my impatience missed. And in his humble, calm, quiet, and dogged way – with no desire for fanfare or to be in the limelight, he supported whomever he thought needed it.
Family. Being present. Showing up consistently no matter what, these are the things that mattered to him. Spend time with your children. Be there for the big and small events. He was there for the track meets, the soccer and basketball games, and most important, dinner. He lived his creed.
And do it again. And again. Predictable rituals that shout each time they are performed, "You can count on me. You matter."
A role model
"Algie could not be tempted to do drugs or alcohol," says a friend he met in school. "He lived a clean and healthy lifestyle from way back then."
He was never going to be one of those 'stereotypic men' who abandoned his family or ran around with other women.
When I think back on the pictures of us, the images that come to mind... I see him waking up with me every time our baby son woke. I hear him encouraging me to pump extra milk, not because I had to, but because he wanted bonding time with our son, and so I would get a break.
He suggested we sleep in shifts so that one of us could be there for this child, who insisted on waking up every 30 minutes as if there's a party he was missing.
Another picture is of our annual Thanksgiving dinners. I did the Jamaican food, and he did the turkey (I suspect because he feared I would choke our guests by making it too dry). It was a time of total togetherness, true partnership, he and I in the kitchen working together to make this 'joy-bringing-event' a success. I will miss that teamwork, that partner who saw I needed a towel or a knife and would pass it to me even before I asked. We worked so well together.
I see the times when we talked about the toll of doing my doctorate. It was such a sacrifice of family time, but in the end, he said, "Honey, it's important to you, so we will find a way." My Albert remained the firm foundation for our children and me.
I remember the years we worked together as house-parents for 'abused, neglected, and run-away' children who had histories that would break your heart. I hear him giving me pointers, including "never let the table be empty." I didn't understand at the time, but when he explained, especially when the boys kept taking the food we left to hoard it in their rooms, that food on the table is a visible sign that there will always be another meal coming. He told me, "kids need to know they have a safe place to come to."
Eating, breaking down walls, sharing, disclosing… this man I married was my teacher. He knew so much about the condition of the human heart.
I fell in love with him because he shared my values. He was practical. He treated me with love and respect. He wanted to be with me. And because he showed me why we made sense together. He was the kindest, most decent human being I had the opportunity to know.
His love never wavered. He kept his promise when he told me many years ago, "You will always be safe with me." I miss him. I already miss his steady support. I miss my best friend – the wind under my wings. How will I fly on without him?
So I found this poem that captures what he would say. I read it and take heart.
Don't Grieve For Me
Don't grieve for me; for now, I'm free
I'm following the path God laid for me.
I took his hand when I heard his call,
I turned around and left it all.
I could not stay another day,
To laugh, to love, to work, or play.
Tasks left undone must stay that way,
I've found that peace at the close of the day.
If my parting has left a void,
Then fill it with remembered joys.
A family shared, a laugh, a kiss
Ah yes, these things I too will miss.
Be not burdened with times of sorrow
I wish you the sunshine of tomorrow.
My life's been full, I've savored much,
Good family, good friends, good times,
a loved one's touch.
Perhaps my time seem all too brief
Don't lengthen it now with undue grief.
Lift up your hearts, and peace to thee.
God wanted me now; He set me free.
Is it okay to hold your hand? That's the question he asked me. I'm so glad, so very glad I said ‘Yes.’
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Steve Schafer is the founder of TheEulogyWriters and is probably the most prolific eulogy writer (and, no doubt, the best) anywhere. He lives in Michigan and has been writing eulogies for well over thirty years. The articles in this blog are designed to help people through the process of losing loved ones.