When someone you love dies, grief is a natural reaction to loss. No matter what your spiritual beliefs are or if they are not part of your life at all, the pain and suffering that comes from losing someone who was important to you can be just as intense for everyone involved.
No one knows how you will react after the death of your loved ones. Feeling anger and frustration at God is a common response, as it helps to make sense of their loss in an otherwise seemingly cruel world where bad things happen to good people.
When people are going through difficult times, religion can help them feel comforted and supported. But for those who do not believe in the same things as their religious community or find themselves questioning certain aspects of it, they might end up feeling even worse than before because now there is this sense that no matter how hard you try to be with your own beliefs everything will still remain unanswered until one day someone decides to come along and answer all your questions where you don't have any say in what happens next.
Why Do People Stop Believing When Tragedy Strikes?
People go through a lot of emotions after the loss of someone they love. They may even blame their faith or God for what happened, which is completely normal and human to do so. In time, people will be able to reconcile with this grief as well as move on in life by questioning their beliefs and going into denial before coming out angry at such things like religion that can help them cope up with all these issues better than ever possible
Grief can cause you to question your faith as the loss of a loved one brings about tremendous crisis.
Getting Your Faith Back
A faith crisis can happen to anyone at any time, but is most common after the loss of someone close. Getting your beliefs and higher power back on track takes reflection, prayer, and connecting with what once gave you comfort during hard times.
Although it may seem like there's no hope for your faith, you can still take steps to get closer.
1. TIME is the Great Healer
When you lose a loved one, the first few days and weeks take some time to process. You might shut down emotionally and withdraw from others during this period of mourning. Be patient with yourself when feeling lost after losing your relative or friend; it takes time for healing to begin again in earnest following such loss.
The grief process is a difficult experience, and it will take you time to heal. You'll go through stages where you lose your faith before regaining it again.
2. Consider the Depths of Your Grief
Unfortunately, you will experience a plethora of emotions after someone dies. You might feel numb for a while but then cry uncontrollably and one day suddenly have an outburst screaming at the top of your lungs in anger without any explanation as to why.
To begin your grieving process, unleash all of the emotions you've been bottling up. Tears are a form of self-cleansing and healing that will help get rid of bottled feelings before moving forward with grief in an efficient manner.
Take the time needed to grieve, and think about all of your reasons for losing faith. You don't need to pressure yourself into finding answers--this is a process that will take some time.
3. Pray as You are Able
When we are in times of need, it is important to pray as a way for us to connect with our faith and the divine. Without offering up some prayers, even when you don't feel confident about your religion or beliefs, then there would be no connection between yourself and the higher power that helps guide you through difficult situations.
Prayer can help lift you out of depression and anger, but if it isn't in your nature to pray consider repeating grief affirmations.
4. Anger is OK
The pain and anger you feel after the death of a loved one are natural. So don't be surprised when you lash out at God asking questions like, "Why have You forsaken me?"
When people feel betrayed by their faith, they may often become incredibly angry. This is normal and should not be a source of shame or guilt. To begin healing from this loss you must confront the pain that comes with it rather than try to ignore it or suppress your feelings about what happened in order for things to get better quickly. Anger can actually push us towards accepting our situation and taking effective action instead of wallowing in self-pity as we wait passively on someone else’s solution
5. Start a Conversation with God
God wants you to know, even in your anger and confusion after loss, that He understands.
Grieving is a difficult process, but it's important to remember that you're not alone. Asking God directly for answers and praying for strength will help you make sense of why things had to happen the way they did while giving you some peace and comfort as well.
6. Allow others believe for you
When you go through a tough time, it can be hard to regain peace. During this process, sharing your feelings with others and asking for help when needed is essential because those around us are the ones who will bring serenity back into our lives.
Asking for prayer is a wonderful way to develop your spirituality. When you need help, accept it with gratitude from those who wish to support you in this journey of faith.
7. Allow Faith to Return
The crisis in your faith will not get bolstered by reading philosophical or academic texts on grief and bereavement alone. You'll have to choose to rely on your faith through the darkness of pain and suffering that comes with loss.
Some of the best types of reading for someone who's lost their faith in God after a loved one dies are spiritual and religious texts that touch on people who were suffering and angry at God. These stories, parables, books can help you recognize that you're not walking alone in your grief.
8. Seek spiritual counsel
If you're struggling to open up about your loss of faith, reach out for spiritual advice and guidance. You might feel more comfortable talking openly if you go outside of the immediate religious or spiritual circle because there's less risk involved in sharing personal information with someone new.
Seeking spiritual online counseling is an alternative to seeking advice from clergy or other religious leaders. A grief counselor is trained in advising from a religious or spiritual perspective, so they can provide meaningful support during times of difficult life events like losing someone close to you.
9. Find Peace Again
Losing someone you love can feel like your heart has been ripped out of your chest, and it hurts so much that sometimes literally brings you to knees in pain. In the first few days or weeks following their death, be gentle with yourself as this overwhelming sadness is normal.
Self-criticism is common following losses, but have faith because peace can be found through acceptance and healing.
10. Find Meaning Again
When you feel your faith is lost, it may seem as if everything becomes meaningless. To bring meaning back to life after suffering a loss might include sitting down in prayerful contemplation with God or another higher power on the subject of that loss.
Losing the person you love is one of the most difficult things a human being can go through, and it's not easy to think clearly when in mourning. It makes sense that anger might cloud your thinking process, but try to take everything step by step for now rather than jumping into anything too quickly.
11. It’s a Journey
Grief can be a cycle of brokenness and healing, with no clear beginning or end. You'll feel like you never were the same person after your loss; that's okay. The best way to get past grief is just getting through it—eventually there will come an acceptance process where we realize our loved one would want us to move on from their death in order for them not to have died in vain.
Our journeys of healing are unique to each and every one us. Your path toward recovery might be different from others who suffer alongside you, so don't compare your grief or expectations with theirs! Accept the changes in yourself as they happen naturally without any judgment on how fast or slow it happens.
A primary source for material used in this article is from Joincake.com
Steve Schafer is the founder of TheEulogyWriters and the author of hundreds of heartfelt, wonderful eulogies. He lives in Michigan and has been writing eulogies for well over thirty years. The articles in this blog are designed to help people through the process of losing loved ones and exploring issues in the aging process.
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