If you’re in a situation where you can’t make your own decisions and someone else has to make them for you, what will happen? In most cases there is some sort of agreement among family members about how they would handle such an event.
There’s a very simple solution to resolve your concerns — you can execute an advanced directive. This will allow for the transfer of all legal authority and ownership from one person (the afflicted individual) to another, without any delays or court proceedings in order that they may maintain control over their healthcare decisions during this trying time ahead!
To put an advanced directive in place, there are two options:
You may be surprised to learn that you have the same options regardless of whether or not would like a family member make decisions for you.
Two Simple Steps:
Step 1: Why Don’t You Want Certain Family Member to Make Your Medical Decisions for You?
Someone else WILL possibly have to make your decisions for you when:
Some reasons why you may not want a family member to make medical decisions for you:
Conflict or disagreement
If your family doesn’t agree with the decisions you are making, and they want to make those for you when it is not their place.
You know who is the best person to make decisions for you? YOU! It’s clear that your family members are not on board with whatever it is they think will work. And guess what-you don't need their permission or blessing just because they're in charge of something right now (like finances).
Inability or unwillingness to decide
You’ve discussed these issues with your family members and they do not necessarily disagree. They may even tell you that if they have to, this is the way things will be done in their household as well!
When push comes to shove, many people just don't have the strength or resolve to make big decisions like medical ones on their own--but you're different! Your family members might not want these responsibilities for themselves so they may try and take advantage of your loved one by making poor choices in this area. It doesn't matter if someone is elderly; what matters most are his/her desires as expressed during discussions about health care plans (if any).
You don’t want to put them in that position
It is hard enough to make these decisions when they are your own. You don't want them on their plate too!
You may know that this would cause much stress for your family and they will feel guilty about their decision the rest of their lives. You might not want to force them into a tough choice, but you also don't want them feeling like criminals because society doesn't accept what they've done.
There’s someone else you prefer
When you have a difficult decision to make, your closest friends know the best course of action for themselves and won't hesitate in making it. It can be hard talking about these things with family members because they may not understand how we feel or why our decisions were made but this is an area where being honest could really help build trust between everyone involved,
Regardless of the reasons why, there's one solution: an Advanced Directive.
You may have a number of reasons for wanting to keep your family members out-of-the picture, but it is important that you approach the situation with consideration. It's always better when someone has all information before making any decisions and avoiding unnecessary drama or tension in their life as well because there will be more peace between them than ever before!
Step 2: Put Together an Advanced Directive for Medical Care
The only way to keep your family from having input on medical decisions when you're incapacitated is by clearly stating desires in writing and making sure that those around know what they should do. This could be done through a living will, which organizes all preferred outcomes for end-of life care.
To make sure your preferences are stated on behalf, you can use a durable healthcare power of attorney.
Designating a loved one to make medical decisions for you is an excellent way of ensuring that your preferences are always followed. You can do this with durable healthcare power of attorney, or simply by having someone in mind when it comes time for treatments - such as choosing between chemotherapy drugs!
Living wills are a great way to indicate your own choices, but they're limited in the circumstances that you can reference. If someone is incapacitated and comes across an unanticipated situation or procedure while they have one active then it's up for debate if their medical provider would know what decision should be made because Living Will does not cover every possibility out there.
A living will allows individuals-especially those who may become ill unexpectedly--to explain how certain life decisions might occur based on symptoms like changes of mental status (such as confusion), coma states/death rattle). The downside? It doesn't address all possibilities so some tough questions arise.
Living wills allow you to have more decision-making autonomy but they can be limited in scope. A health care proxy would work well for people who do not want others making medical decisions on their behalf, like a spouse or child; however it's important that this person does know where information about your personal preferences should go if something were happen unexpectedly while at home and unable able to communicate clearly because of an illness/injury (living will).
Durable healthcare power of attorney
A durable healthcare power of attorney is a legal instrument through which you can grant someone else complete authority over your medical decisions when it comes to things like implants or surgery. It's important that this person understands all aspects and makes sure they act in the best interest for their patient before making any final decisions, so make sure that both parties discuss these matters thoroughly beforehand!
Designating a person to state your preferences with durable healthcare power of attorney is an important decision. You want this individual, not the law or medical professionals who may interact on behalf for them in certain situations such as end-of life care planning and agreeing upon future treatments. The designated "spiritual" representative should always know what choices you would have made if they were present at time but cannot speak independently due being unable so doing themselves; therefore it's best practice limit those instances where someone other than oneself makes decisions involving essential personal matters when possible by selecting trustworthy individuals specifically trained under laws concerning ability-driven transmission standards appropriate only after full comprehension has been achieved from both sides.
It is important to document your living will and durable healthcare power of attorney in order for them to be legally binding. If you signed these documents, provide a copy with instructions on how it can only act according the wishes that are stated within them or else face legal ramifications!
In most cases, if you don't have a living will or durable power of attorney document to indicate your wishes for medical treatment then the provider is likely going on what family members tell them.
It’s Up to You!
In the event that you're unable to make decisions for yourself, there are only three options:
The right to make decisions about your medical care is a fundamental one. This means that if you don't want others making those choices for yourself, then there are steps in place already-a durable healthcare power of attorney and living will allow us some peace of mind when it comes time for something serious or potentially life threatening situation arises.
A primary source for material used in this article is from Joincake.com
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